The word is from Bulgarian “табиет“. It is used to describe someone’s way of being, their habits and particular character with it’s quirks and uniqueness. It’s not a commonly used word, but I’ve learned it from my grandfather.He (I think) loves that word because he recognises that he has a particular tabiet (character) himself. He does things in a way and no-matter what happens around he keeps doing them that way. For example, he always arranges objects around the houses and makes sure his working space is clean, tidy and comfortable before he does anything else.
Each of us has a tabiet, little things we love to do a certain way. I know people that have great joy in putting the laundry up to dry and are meticulous in the arrangement of that, or others that cook with passion and a lot of love when it comes to feeding guests and friends, but would never be nearly as enthusiastic in doing it for themselves. It’s a combination of our habits, preferences and experience of what works over time.
There are however always two sides. Developing a tabiet that nurtures our productivity is natural, but we also develop a tabiet in not dealing well with difficult situations or when asked for help. It’s really powerful to focus and develop a positive character. That process can really speed up and help you grow when you focus on the parts where you are weak. For example, when you get asked to wash the dishes and your face deforms, you start wining and complaining or looking for excuses. The whole atmosphere is poisoned. What if you look for all the things that the other person has done through that day, what if you see an opportunity in fulfilling that request to make someone happy and brighten their day.
We all have a tabiet of our own, largely developed unconsciously, but we have a choice. It doesn’t matter if people around us are mean, ignorant and not understanding, we still have the choice to form our character the way we want. And we show that choice not in the clothes that we wear, in the cars we drive but in the smaller interactions we have with people.